“I do so much good around me and I expect this good to come back to me” or “if someone slaps you, turn the other cheek” – a belief that, in reality, is extremely harmful to anyone who carries it, whether consciously or unconsciously. It is true that what you give, you get – but not always in the form in which we are taught to believe. I lived for almost 18 years with an extremely well-educated, intellectual and professional man, and yet his world constantly revolved around these beliefs. And all the “evidence” was that “he always does good”, but people do not respond to him with the same coin. This is precisely where the “trap” is – in these “evidences” –, because, every day, what we do is bring into our reality exactly the confirmations for what we believe.

And here comes something extremely important: the environment in which we live and the people we spend time with. Even if we don't realize it, on an unconscious level we take on the beliefs and patterns of those around us. Without wanting to, we synchronize with their energy, with their way of looking at life. Therefore, carefully choosing your circle of people is not a fad, but a form of love and mental and emotional integrity.

Disclaimer: We take on these beliefs only when we choose to believe in the evidence we see around us. In other words, it is not the environment itself that changes us, but the inner consent to accept that “evidence” as real and valid for us. For some time now, I have also noticed within myself an aspect that is “waiting” and because my intention every day is for clarity and congruence, I wanted to understand what is actually happening. On an energetic level, this attitude creates expectations that good will return to me – and it is precisely these expectations that block prosperity.

The greatest miracles in my life have occurred precisely when I had no expectations. When I didn’t try to control how what I wanted came to me. I simply felt the desire, smiled, and then I let it go… completely, with no attachment to the outcome. And what does this have to do with business? It does, and a lot more. Imagine that you have an extraordinary product, but unconsciously you create this expectation, instead of being in full confidence that your product reaches exactly the customers who need it. Or, for example, you keep an employee out of “pity”.

This means that you cannot look at him through the lens of trust that he can, truly, succeed. Because, above all, every person on this earth comes from the same Source and is never alone. And what he is experiencing now is just an experience through which he remembers that he can. So your choice can be: I know you can get it – or, on the contrary, to validate his unconscious beliefs. Look at your partners, your colleagues, your employees and ask yourself: through what “lens” do you view them? And, most importantly, is the environment they choose to stay in, a thriving one?